She Asked For It

Snuggle in with a hot cup of tea or chocolate. It is story time. 

A boy walked down the street, whistling and without a care in the world until he stumbled upon a Bagco Super Sack overflowing with crisp wads of 1000 naira notes. He did a double-take and scanned the street. It was as lonely on a cold desert night. He scratched his head, wondering what to do. In this recession, he would be a fool to walk away from such an amount. At the same time, he wondered if it could be a trap and the owner was stowed away watching who would be greedy enough to help himself to the money. 

Deciding the risk was worth it and that no one would notice if a couple bundles were missing, he stashed them into his pockets and continued on his way. 

Now, comes the question: if this boy is arraigned and charged to court, would he be guilty of stealing?  I can imagine the incredulous look on your faces as you say, “Why, of course yes!”

Well, can’t this be likened to that poor girl who walks down the street and is taken advantage of just because she was dressed ‘indecently’? 

Don’t say that that matter is different. Let’s call a spade, a spade. While, there is a place for decency in every sane society, the lack of it still does not stand as an excuse for raping a girl. Some men, and even surprisingly, women, have the audacity to claim that any girl who wears revealing clothes is asking for it. No one asks to be raped; not even prostitutes. 

In recent times, too many rape occurrences have plagued our society and everyone else acts like they are normal phenomena. Think it’s a lie? See Statistics as at 2015 

Victims of rape should be treated as such- victims, not blamed or stigmatized. More so, if a man truly wants to prove his manliness then it should not be by waylaying a poor girl- rather, that is bestiality!

                                                                                               … Angie Inspired 

Food For Thought

​I AM A WOMAN!!! –  
So what?

I get into an argument with a man,  he slaps me, I feel the pain, yet they tell me I provoked him. I should have been quiet,  I should have been patient.  I should apologize to him. 

I get into an argument with a man,  I slap him,  they tell me I have no respect, no home training. I should have been quiet,  I should have been patient. I should apologize to him. 

Because I am a woman,  I don’t have a right to be angry. So, the degree of my innocence is directly proportional to the degree of my  silence in the face of oppression and brutality…..

Because I am a woman, my husband cheats on me, I am told to tolerate it to save my marriage. The barbaric and stupid excuse is that ”it is in their nature to cheat,  I should slim down,  dress better, cook better,  pray harder and be more pleasant to him”

I cheat, and I am called a whore, I have committed an abomination, I have no right to look elsewhere for the love and emotional support I lack at home,  I am an irresponsible mother.

So I am sent packing, from the home we both built,  with all my earthly possessions stuffed into a tiny box on my head.  I am henceforth forbidden from seeing my two older children,  I’m lucky to be allowed to go with my little one still suckling on my left breast. Three years later, the little one is tagged a bastard. Now, my new name is “after-three”,  because I am a woman.  

He is 28 and runs a company. He’s tagged  wonderful, hardworking,  focused,  career oriented,  successful at a very young age.  

I am 28 and I run a company ” Hmmmm, she is not even married, unserious, can not order her priorities right, a hustler,  loves money,  let her go and get a husband oh”

And I wonder if being successful has anything to do with a person’s gender.

Because I am a woman,

I am not allowed to have wits or be a prodigy, I cannot be financially buoyant,  professionally successful or be treated with respect without a man beside me.

Then I am tagged a generous leg opener, “a runs girl”. They never see the possibility that I actually had to go through ups and downs to get to where I am.

Because I am a woman.

A man looses his wife to death and remarries a year after, he did the right thing, he’s being praised and congratulated for moving on, after all life is for the living. 

A woman looses her husband to death and remarries after 4yrs, “ahhh! so early? Are u sure she wasn’t sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive? That was why she killed her husband.  She’s a witch! ”  Because she’s a woman. 

Because I am a woman, this post will be considered controversial, and everyone will try to correct me.

But don’t forget, that I am a woman and it does not make me less human!!!

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